I recently shared a few blog posts about preparing for a boudoir photography shoot and a recent session I did in Salt Lake City, and I so appreciate the overwhelmingly positive response I received to these posts!
As the DMs poured in on instagram, a common question I was asked is, “How do you feel confident wearing lingerie?”
Wearing Lingerie Confidently as a Plus Size Babe
I think that people of all sizes struggle to feel confident in their body, and wearing lingerie is the equivalent of yelling “LOOK AT ME!!!!!” so I totally get the hesitancy here.
This is made especially tough for fat-identified and plus size people, who often see an “idealized” plus size body modeling lingerie.
If you’re not an “hourglass shape” it can feel pretty yucky to shop for plus size lingerie, ya know? It’s a not-so-happy comparison party imho.
So, I thought pretty deeply on this question from my dear readers (that’s you!), and I’ve come up with 4 actionable ways you can feel confident in your body and rock some pretty sexy lingerie.
Quick Note – Wearing Lingerie for a Partner
I really believe – in my very bones – that wearing lingerie needs to be for the wearer. Don’t contort yourself into someone’s ideal of who you are! If a partner has inspired you to try lingerie, that’s super! Make sure that you’re honoring your Self and wearing it because you want to try it, too!
Action Item #1: Follow Body Positive Accounts on Social Media
We spend a lot of time scrolling through social media, and seeing people live their #BestLives on the gram can awaken a whole set of feelings.
But we can use our feeds to our advantage by following people with shapes and bodies similar to ours, and being sure to follow a diverse set of people! One of the best things I ever did for my self-confidence was to surround myself with imagery of other plus size babes who looked like me!!
Maybe I need to do a roundup on plus size babes who rock lingerie, but a few folks I think you should follow for this kind of content are:
- Alex of Chubby Struggles
- Leah of Voluptuous Leah
- Me (lol) of The Huntswoman
- Saucye West
- Nikki G
- Laurel of Laurel Dickman Writes
- Brianna of The B Word
- Jazzmyne Jay
You can take this one step further and follow hashtags on Instagram like #VisiblyPlusSize #AlternativeCurves and #FatAndFree to see diverse bodies show up in your feed!
Action Item #2: Start with Flowy Lingerie
For babes who are just tipping their toe in new waters, I would recommend starting with a plus size babydoll set or chemise! I am all about strappy pieces (YES!) that show my body in all of its glory, but I didn’t start out here.
More flowy pieces can help you feel more comfortable wearing lingerie, eventually inspiring you to expand your comfort zone!
Action Item #3: Hang Out at Home in Lingerie – By Yourself!
Wearing lingerie is different from wearing jeans and a t-shirt! If the first time you put on a piece of lingerie is before fun shenanigans, well, you’re probably going to be a LOT more self-conscious.
Get used to wearing lingerie by lounging in it! Get a cute lingerie set with a robe, and have a self-care night (maybe Sunday night?) where you pamper yourself while wearing lingerie!
You’ll be able to see how it moves (and how sturdy it is, cough), while having fun for you!
Action Item #4: Boudoir Session & Selfies FTW
I have heard from many readers that doing a boudoir photography session totally changed their view of their bodies. A good boudoir session shows you in all of your glory, and a boudoir photographer will understand how to work within your comfort zone to share some fabulous pictures.
Boudoir photography allows you to see yourself as others see you – helping you silence your mean inner critic.
Selfies can also help you take fabulous photos! Have a fun photo session with yourself or grab a friend to help you take cute photos.
Finally, Your Partner(s) Know(s) What You Look Like!
My BFF Alex of Chubby Struggles totally changed my worldview with this hot tip:
“Your partner already knows what you look like!”
We have this idea that people are going to be totally shocked when they see us in lingerie, but babe, they already know where you carry your weight and what you look like! It’s pretty unlikely that you’re going to take off your clothes and they’ll be like, “OMG!! YOU HAVE A FULL STOMACH?!!?!?”
They know what they’ve signed up for, so rock your bad self!!! 😉
Where to Buy Plus Size Lingerie?
Okay, so now that you’ve read this post – you’re ready to try new pieces! Check out this roundup with my fave plus size lingerie brands!
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